Capture Time Past…to Jump Forward

Capricorn season is upon us – the sign of discipline, resourcefulness, and practical ambition. Time to get things done! Horoscopes may be unscientific, but I always seem to get just the inspiration I need. The traits of Capricorn set us up for the can-do spirit of a New Year. And what a fantastic time to move forward, based on what’s happened in the year just wrapping up.

What a great prompt for your journal — a Time Capsule of the year just past. Get cozy and recall the highlights, as well as the lessons learned in the year just past. Scan photos, emails, calendar notes, whatever prompts your memories. Once you have a recap, write a reflection.

An outstanding launching point into setting priorities and defining goals that really matter to you in 2020. Time Capsule is just one of 18 amazing techniques I teach during Journal to the Self workshops. Learn more on the Workshops page (online and in-person session). Or, if you prefer to sample first, try a free technique, or let’s schedule a no obligation phone call to chat about how I can support your own change journey.

Celebrating special people thru a Character Sketch

Most often, a journal write is private, just for your own use. But some journal writes can be a gift to others — like the Character Sketch. Today is ‘Christmas Card Day’ in honor of the first card being created in England back in 1843. It’s a great prompt to try a new journal writing technique.

The essence of a Character Sketch is pretty simple. Just call to mind someone special.

Use someone on your greeting card list as inspiration!

Take a moment to envision this person — with all of your senses, emotion and imagination. Then write. When you are done, complete with a short reflection.

This is a great tool when you want to understand someone a litle better — and often the takeaway of who they really are to you, and what the relationship means to you are words that are beautiful to share.

Character Sketch is just one of 18 amazing techniques I teach during Journal to the Self workshops. Learn more on the Workshops page (online and in-person session). Or, if you prefer to sample first, try a free technique, or let’s schedule a no obligation phone call to chat about how I can support your own change journey.

 

 

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash.

Listing Out the Next Right Step

Really inspired by the concept of one thing: the next right step. It’s about mindfulness, being in the present. It’s about stress management, just one step. It’s about change management/transition inspiration, each step leads to a bigger goal.

This theme is a great prompt for one of my favorite Journal to the Self techniques: the List of 100. List of 100 taps the best of your left (thinking) brain and your right (creative) brain. It’s fast-moving and fun and when I use it with an honest question, I always get surprisingly effective results.

Give it a try. Write the inspiration for your list at the top — try

My next step…

Here are a few pointers: Write very quickly. Number as you go. Repeat, repeat, repeat is ok! If you get stuck, just write ‘stuck’ until the next thing comes. The fascination kicks in once you have a list of 100. Reread it at that point, looking for categories, patterns, themes and insights that emerge. Don’t forget to write a reflection of the overall process or outcomes to wrap it up.

List of 100 is just one of 18 amazing techniques I teach during Journal to the Self workshops. Learn more on the Workshops page (online and in-person session). Or, if you prefer to sample first, try a free technique, or let’s schedule a no obligation phone call to chat about how I can support your own change journey.

Finding Rituals

Ever read something quickly and then it still stays with you so vividly? This article Welcome to the Clan by Jodi Klugman-Rabb for Severance Magazine was just that for me.

As a therapist, Jodi works with some clients on parental identity events such as she personally experienced. She wisely points out the importance of rituals in processing any life-changing event. And, unfortunately, the lack of ritual examples for the genealogically bewildered community.

With open ears and an open heart, Jodi hears, “welcome to the clan” as a mini-ritual within her new family. And she’s also open enough to extend her Jewish-faith rituals back.

My own family stepped into some rituals that offer a bit of comfort as we make sense of my husband’s extended bio-family who we’ve met but not connected with yet. As luck would have it, we were hosting a soccer coach from Sweden at the time we discovered my father-in-law’s birth father was from a line of Finnish-Swedes! So now we celebrate all things Sweden on Coach’s birthday. (The custom of Fika is a good one to learn even if you don’t have Swedish roots!)

The thing about rituals is, you can’t fake them. They matter because they mean something. Over time I think we’ll start to see some common rituals evolve to accommodate families with unconventional branching of a tree. Indeed, the open adoption community already provides some inspiration such as with the concept of celebrating Arrival Day. But rituals, like families, are unique and that too is a reason they mean something. For those seeking to make sense of known family, new family, bio-family and family unit perhaps the pattern of a ritual, or its kismet means it may discover you.